Who’s down to have a part-time relationship? A raise of hands? According to a new website, this is now possible! Maybe you don’t have time to be in a fully committed relationship either because you are focused on your career or you have gone through a messy divorce or just don’t want the responsibilities of a full-time relationship, but the idea of having a companion, part-time that is, is a rather favorable choice to not consume your everyday life. According to the Parttimelove website, a part-time relationship is a “meaningful romance without the everyday commitment.”
I am having a little bit of trouble understanding this concept. Is this like a part-time job where you are only available certain hours during the week and you only put the effort when you have the time for it? Most people would call this part-time relationship a “booty call,” but according to the founder of the website, Helen Croydon who is an author and blogger, says that the ultimate goal is for lasting love, not a casual encounter.
The website states, “[w]e are not a no-strings website. Friends-with-benefits this is not. We are a platform for contented singletons who want to find genuine romance with chemistry, friendship and respect, without the five-times-a-week demands of a conventional relationship.” The site makes it sound as if though being in a relationship is a job.
The site was launched in January and it seems to cater to people in the UK, US and Australia. It doesn’t say how many current members belong to the site. However, one testimonial says, “I have found a wonderful weekend lover. He asks for nor more and the times we spend together are magical” from “Leah, 38.”
Maybe the idea and intention is unique but I am not sure how it works when feelings begin to develop beyond the physical attraction as the ultimate goal of this site is to have genuine romance. Can you really have part-time feelings for someone? If you are genuinely invested in someone for who they are and how they make you feel, how could it be just a part-time relationship? Feelings for someone aren’t measured in quantity. You either feel for someone or you don’t. And although you may not always be able to spend time with the person because of whatever is going on in your life or their life, your feelings aren’t half-full or half-empty.
I have to admit this type of relationship does sound appealing. On the one side, you are sort of protecting yourself and allowing yourself to be your own person and have your own space without compromising the supposed relationship or your own person. It’s somewhat ideal. It’s the no-fuss, no-muss-type of relationship. But on the other side, part of being in a relationship is being vulnerable. And eventually, one person or even both may want to have a more committed relationship which sort of defeats the purpose of the part-time relationship this site claims to be.
Croydon wanted her site to be for singletons to enjoy a meaningful love affair without sacrificing their existing lifestyles but even if this is the case at a certain point in this part-time relationship you will start to demand something from the other person to either go to certain places whether it be a birthday party or a vacation. I mean part of why you would want to have this part-time lover is not only to cuddle in bed but to also enjoy each other’s company outside the bedroom as well.