Anyone who has been unemployed for a while knows the ups and downs of, well, being unemployed. You get excited when you get an interview and you get disappointed when you get emails saying you are not qualified for job. While we may spend hours searching for jobs and doing research and feeling good about the job prospects we are making, there is nothing worse than to get a rejection. Just last week I had an interview. I prepared and studied for it. The interview went great in my mind; however, the outcome was a lot different. A few days later I got a call from the HR department saying I would not be moving forward to the second interview portion.
I was gracious to the HR person and thanked her for the time and consideration. As I was hearing her speak and as I nodded to her telling me I wasn’t moving forward, rejection ran from my head to my foot. It took over my body. I could feel it numbing my soul. I could feel it sucking out my happiness. It was Friday and I had been feeling great about the interview and was hoping I would proceed to a second. She kept going on about how great I was and how it was ‘unfortunate’ I was not moving forward.
So what do you do after getting rejected for a job? I did what you are not supposed to do. I felt like crap. I felt like I wasn’t good enough and I felt like giving up. After one too many rejections sometimes you just want to give up and feel sorry for yourself. And as sad it is to admit it, I felt sorry for myself. All I wanted to do was to have a few drinks and fill my sadness with alcohol. It was my way to escape and dodge a rejection. Of course you can’t dodge a rejection and it was a blow to my confidence. I took it to heart. I mean we are getting judged on how we present ourselves so we take it personal – at least I do. Since I did what you are not supposed to do after a job rejection, here are few tips from job experts I found on the internet.
Although this may seem hard at first, remaining positive is key. One expert at Guardianjobs.com wrote “… keep your mind focused on other opportunities and continue to present yourself to the best of your ability. If you find you are facing continuous rejection then use it as a means for developing resilience.” I couldn’t agree more. The market is tough and not letting your ego bruise will be undoubtedly increase the chances of finding the perfect job.
Write a thank you letter
You may want to flip off the HR person for giving you the bad news but just remember it wasn’t them. What you should do is write a letter to the person who interviewed you thanking them for the opportunity. It is a good way to stay on the good side. One never knows what could happen and they could keep your resume for future jobs. Also, if you want to get some feedback on the reason why you didn’t get the position, this is the perfect opportunity to ask.
Improve your interview skills
I thought I had done great; however, I don’t know what the manager read as I was responding to her questions. USA Today wrote “Walk away from rejection with understanding so that you won’t make the same mistakes again and you can better focus in on what you need to alter or adjust to make you more of a stellar interviewee and a more relevant candidate.”
Don’t give up
This last one might be the most important. You may want to throw in the towel after a few rejections and stop looking for a job altogether. But this could hinder your job prospect and miss out on other job opportunities. Stay focused on what is important and that is finding a job that fits you.
So my fellow job-rejected unemployed compadres, stay positive and don’t give up!